Things about typical phases of childhood that didn't require discipline, just patience.
Things I'm wishing we could go back and do:
hug more.
reassure more.
do more sensory play.
cherish moments more.
say a lot more "I love you's"
speak more gently.
It really really REALLY sucks that Million has to bear the weight of our experimentation/failures as parents.
In the next few days/weeks, I plan to type a little bit about:
- movie/book character adulation, and how we're dealing (or not) with it
- stranger danger teaching and the complexities with a child who still has some attachment problems
- one of our best strategies for dysregulation
- talking about babies (and belly buttons) when you don't know the exact details of your child's birth
This list looks like I'm going to come at these topics with a little more expertise than I feel I've got.
Honestly, daily it's a struggle. It's still a mixed bag. I never know when something is going to be over his head or over his ability to handle in an appropriate way. I do know that he is a highly verbal processor. And I know that I'm a verbal processor too, when I have a chance to type or write in my journal. So I'm looking forward to getting these thoughts out of my head and onto a screen.
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